Relationships!!

A relationship, for me is the most beautiful thing one can experience. The dictionary meaning of Relation is 'emotional association between people'. Each and every relation has certain feelings behind them. Relationships happen and sometimes don't work out. Human beings have the tendency to fall in love with two or more people at different times. 'Pleasure' is a one word definition for the modern world relationship.
Nowadays the value of true relations is understood by very few. The trend of 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' has become common. Sometimes we see that there is absolutely no connectivity between the two involved in the so called relation. Have emotions completely lost the importance in a relationship?
Relationships are those lovely pieces of life which we must cherish. When one becomes young that is the time when he experiences the first love affair with life. Youth is the time when one feels free to reach out to others. As one steps out of his adolescence he feels confident to approach people. As they say… “Friendships form, Relationships happen."
Sometimes, for people who are in the same class for a long time, the cupid seems to wing in. The girl and the boy go out. A few meetings and they decide on to 'go around'. What does this 'going around' actually mean? The young generation seems to get out of relationships even more than they get in them. Friendships and relationships are so easy nowadays. The impression that our hip-hop and hopscotch youths are cut off from their emotional parts proves difficult to ward off. The youth in the metros seem to be trying to adapt the western relationship patterns. As soon as they develop a liking for somebody they tend to rush themselves into serious relationships when they don't even understand each others sentiments fully. Communication and conversations are less and hence may be the main cause of failed relationships. Most of the young lot gets into relationships only to satisfy their physical needs. The main need of the relationship, the value of the relationship is not understood very well by the crowd.
If you really love someone never let go, don't believe that letting go means that you love best, and instead fight for your love, that's what true love is. In love, very rarely do we win but when love is true, even if you lose, you still win just for having the tingle of loving someone more than you love yourself. Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive, not how you listen but how you understand, not what you see but how you feel and not how you let go but how you hold on. Happiness lies for those who cry, those who are hurt those who have searched and those who have tried. For only they can appreciate the importance of the people who have touched their lives.
We are all a little weird and life's a little weird and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. It is this weirdness’ i believe in... So... to all the lovers...LOVE is the message!!

The Mistress Of Spices!! -- Impressive!!

Very rarely do we come across Novels that make us realize the true beauty of a woman. Ms. Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni introduces us with a lovely woman who has troubles in choosing her love or abiding by the duties that she has undertaken. A woman has many roles to play, but letting her heart rule over her mind or making her mind make decisions on her man, is what this story revolves around. Love often is misinterpreted as lust but here, the usage of the ‘mistress’ is purely to express the emotions of a woman to her art. Chitra expresses her very realistic approach regarding the woman of substance with the instance of Tilo, an Indian woman, bestowed with supernatural powers and the right knowledge of spices by and old lady. Tilo runs a Grocery store in another land and provides her customers with remedies for their woes with the help of spices. Just the way spices add taste to the food she believes the character of a person is related to each of the spices in her store. Curing the homesickness of the families staying away from home in an alien land she finds herself in a predicament when she falls in Love with a Man from the foreign land. She has to make her choice in choosing her lover or her love for the spices and her duties. The novel revolves around how Tilo manages to make her decision and satisfy the urge of romance in her life without letting the loyalties she owes to her profession and also to the faith through which she was imparted with the magical powers. In this fictitious story about an Indian in modern day Oakland, the author bridges the distance between the heart of a sensuous woman and the mind of a giver to her art. With the correct blend of sensuality, desires and horror, Chitra reveals the true Mistress of Spices!

""You once said you would change the world for me.., chuck the world! You said you would bring out a difference for me! You claimed to love me! You claimed to care for me! And then there was a day.., when I woke up to find people looking at me with amusement, they clicked pictures.., was I famous?! Was I the one in a big car?! When I was born mom took me around... she loved me... dad loved me too... only he dint know how to show. My sisters loved me.., but I dint see them for long. My brother was around for some time... but don’t know... Guess he left for some work. A nice man took him to work. We had a big house... no1 ever lived in such big houses. But my friends and I did.
Then one day... mommy said I had played enough and called me home. She said someone got me chocolates. He did. Nice man.., he loved me too... he touched me tenderly. For a long time... He met me everyday. He got chocolates. Mommy told me to love him. She said he was nice. He was really nice. She said I was a big girl. And big girls were touched by men who loved them. All the men who touched me loved me. And they did. They loved me. They got me good things. They got me other men to love. I loved everybody. And then the people in uniform came and took me away. Now I’m here. Away from mommy and daddy. They tell me they are here too... but they don’t meet me. They say I am a bad girl. Am I bad for obeying mommy? You said you would help me... Nobody did. But mommy stayed with me throughout. She cried for me... you dint. Mommy was loved too... She cried too... for herself. Nobody helped her? Then why am I in the papers today?! Why do my neighbors and friends throw stones at me?! ""


I wrote this piece when I read an article in the papers. A 12 yr old makes it big in the papers as she was into “prostitution”. She was a roadside dweller. People throwing stones..., media clicking pictures. Why? How does one react to this? Read it and tell your family of how bad the city gets. Not one person has the guts to stand up. Stand up for? Would a 12 yr old have the brains to make money over selling off her womanhood? Unanswered questions... stay the same.

Diamond wedding ring – a gift for someone you love

Wedding is a once in a lifetime experience. Through this scared bond two different individuals come together to be one. Everyone wants to make this event a memorable one and a pleasant experience. But, why just make the episode an unforgettable for yourself? This is something that your partner will want to cherish for life. Hence, try and cosset yourself in an intimate affair with your partner with gifting them the most beautiful and the most romantic gift ever. Gifting a diamond is the best way to express how valuable your partner is to you.

Diamonds: Love personified

To own a diamond is like conquering a dream. As you begin your new life after marriage, the best way to express your concern and affection to your partner is by presenting a diamond. A diamond wedding ring is one of the ways to add glitter in your partner’s life. Diamonds have been considered as the symbols of desire. What could be more beautiful than showing your true emotions to your partner through gifting them a beautiful wedding ring studded with a diamond. No one can deny the fact that diamonds add a magical sparkle to your eyes. There couldn’t be a better way to say how much you are in love with your partner than presenting your better half a ring studded with a sparkling diamond. There’s a reason why diamonds are considered the most valuable possession. This is because, diamonds are the most unique pieces and no two diamonds are similar. Diamond, is a Greek word and it means Unconquerable or unbeatable. A diamond evokes love and emotions and is a representation of an eternal bond. Usually the diamond ring is worn on the fourth finger of the left hand. This originated in Egypt where it was said that the vena amoris which is the vein of love was directly connected from the finger to the heart.

Making your own style:

Almost 83% of the brides receive a diamond wedding for their marriage. Getting a diamond is an investment for a lifetime. To set yourself different from the crowd, you can design your own ring. You can design your own single studded, two or three stone diamond ring on platinum or gold to create a style apart. Wedding is a rare occasion. And styled diamond rings put in a glitz of magic in this beautiful occasion. Designing your own diamond the way that is the most attractive and suitable for your beloved counts! There are a number of rings available in the market, but not always do we find a satisfactory design. So, designing your own ring helps of compiling your creativity with your emotions. Buying a lose diamond and buying a set one makes a huge difference but, also the retailer from you buy it makes a variation. Consulting a gemologist is one of the good ways to get you a good quality deal. Buying an Antique diamond wedding ring is definitely an excellent deal but not everyone can actually resist the charm in a three stone diamond ring. It is said that the three stones on the ring symbolize the three stages in a couple’s life. That is the present, past and future. The three studded diamond ring can be an ideal wedding gift as it signifies the relationship of a couple. Wedding diamond rings are available in two different styles. The first is the Band ring which surrounds the finger and the second is the Setting which holds the diamond. A single stud is also known as a solitaire.

An affair for life:

A wedding ring is your identity or a symbol of marriage. To make it something special, gifting a diamond wedding ring is to start an all together new love affair with life. These rings are available in different shapes and sizes. The purity of your diamond can be checked with the dimensions formed in the sunlight. We cannot challenge the quote when they say that diamonds are forever because they indeed are the most desirable stones. It does not count whether it is a Mens or a Ladies diamond ring. What counts is the shape, size and the clarity of the stone. There are a lot of sources through which you can buy yourself a diamond. But striking a good deal needs a little knowledge about the diamonds. When you have adequate knowledge about the stone it is easier to choose yourself a good and reasonable diamond ring. Sometimes it gets difficult to differentiate between the real and the fake because of the appearance. By keeping you updated with the market value as well the qualities of a real diamond we can save ourselves from falling prey to some viscous retailers. Sometimes it may seem risky, but buying yourself a diamond over the internet can also help you in getting the best and also, internet provides you with a wide variety to choose from.

Making your choice:

Choosing the best can be monotonous for any individual. Especially, when you can’t settle at a plain one. The wedding ring is one of your early gifts before marriage. So, choose the best. Nowadays, diamonds are available in different colors too. But even though they have the value of the actual plain diamond, sometimes they may appear to look fake. To save yourself from any kind of negative elements, always remember that you should demand for a purity certificate when you buy a diamond. The best metal that goes with a diamond is Platinum as it is durable, hard and has a luster. Detecting the clarity is one of the most important things that you have to do before getting a ring. They may say that a diamonds are a girl’s best friend’s but even for a guy to sport a solitaire ring is very much prestigious. For centuries together these solitaires have captured the hearts of millions, even waged colonial wars to get back these precious stones to their land. What can be a more valuable and precious gift than gifting a diamond? Gift a diamond and capture the wonderful moment called life.

Changing music, changing times…!

With the changing trends of the society, our lives have been altered too. Hitting the malls and spending some Moolah’ is the idea of an ideal Sunday. Bedtime stories have a replacement with Radio Mirchi extending the time limit upto 2 in the morning. Movies no longer need a story line because maybe the mindsets of the common man are altering. After all, there is no hard and fast rule that a movie must have a gist always. Sometimes we find ourselves watching a completely hopeless movie without getting bored. Reason?! Well, the reason may be anything. Himesh Reshmiya adding to the music quotient of the movies, the chances of the movie going flop but famous, is more. Music definitely has diverted its path from ‘sounding good’ to just ‘Sound’! Being a Himesh Reshmiya fan myself I would not want to criticize him because he has proved his critics wrong. With accepting a voice like Himesh in the music industry we have literally accepted the changing like’s of the new generation. Lata Mangeshkar still remains the legend of the film fraternity but with Asha Bhonsale trying her hand at newer versions of compositions, it seems even the singers have learnt the bitter rule of the music industry.
The Rule being: He, who accepts, can still survive.
Then may it be, music directors tuning their chords according to the Hollywood harmony or then trying to create an image of them by mixing their songs in a unique style. Sometimes, remixes make me ponder. Do we actually need a change? What needs to be revitalized is the mindset that remixed music lasts. The last time my father played an old Hindi track all he told me was about some of his sweet memories from the college days. Now when I play the remixed version of the same old track, all he mutters is how the times have changed. Have the times really changed I asked myself a lot many times? The worried look on my fathers face as I walk back home at 8.30 pm tells it all. Times have changed. Just like the music, our lives have been remixed in a fashion that we have long forgotten what we are. Before we lose the synchronization of our life, we need to rejuvenate our senses to find the lost composer in our self. At a point where there is utter chaos around us, being in touch with the inner self can help us stay calm and alert to head any of the situations that emerge. Thus I conclude, music and life go hand in hand.

ketki.. my angel!!

Friends with whom we have shared our sorrows and our joys become a part of our life story.
If a long time friend expires, it's as if part of your story has vanished. Ketaki was a part of my life story, my best buddy. Someone who actually was the true
definition of closeness for me. I met her in the first year of junior college. What started
off as a fight turned out to be the most prized relationship for me. I was a solitary person
till I met her. I had many friends but never could share my innermost feelings with anybody.
She was there for me during every crisis - major and minor. I would call her my crisis
manager. She understood instinctively how I felt and how to help. I knew I could call her
anytime and say "I need you, can you come?" and she would not bat an eyelid. I never felt
the slightest awkward to ask her for help. Knowing that I had her rock steady support made me feel secure. She changed college with a
promise to meet me every week. A promise she kept. She came home every Saturday evening. I
didn't need to entertain her, nor did she entertain me. It was like spending the evening on
my own- but better. She had a unique overview of my life and therefore was in a position to
give me advice. She never judged me like others did and was always honest. Two years of
understanding and ultimate loyalty. I never took it personally when we didn't talk for a
while. Because when we did get in touch nothing had changed.I realize her worth today. Even though I was a loner before I met her, I never felt so
lonely like I feel today. Life has changed ever since she's gone. But I know, even though
she's living in a different world than mine, I still can call out to her in my troubled
days. She is someone I cant ever let go. She is my support, my superstar and my best friend
always!! An angel who touched my heart truly! FRIEND-someone one likes and chooses to spend
time with u,a sympathizer,helper and supporter. But ketaki was much more than just all that.
Who was ketaki? To me she was everybody..seriously everybody!

juz back from goa!

It's a shame Goa comes burdened with a reputation for louche living, because there's so much more to it than sun, sand and psychedelia. The allure of Goa is that it remains quite distinct from the rest of India and is small enough to be grasped and explored in a way that other Indian states are not. we never try to reveal the true identity of the ever soo beautiful goa! trips to goa make me fall in love with the true beauty and the character of my native place..., not only is goa wonderful.., but the people are super human! maybe its the goan whos talkin here.. but i miss goa!! its wonderful to be called a goan.., if people actually want to see the beauty of goa i think they should visit the temples. Full of Peace and Serenity.., they define the Art of Living.